Milestones and meltdowns.

Had our biofather termination visit today. It was a disaster. JJ cried, tantrum'd and fell asleep in my lap in the visit. I learned he has a baby brother who is turning 2 in a few days. I'm trying to reach out to his family to make sure he has ties to birth siblings, in particular, and hitting some road blocks. Birthmother cancelled her visit for today which while I found it surprisingly, other people didn't. One person's words were "what's her excuse this time?". I am sad for Jacob that he may not have contact with her. I think it is important for him but I can't force people to do things. I just want to be able to tell him that I did what I could to expose him to people who love him and healthy situations. He'll have to know the truth about certain family members at some point, and I hope he is at a point where he can handle hearing the bad information that is a part of his past. I love him and want to protect him, but also want him informed. This open adoption parenting doesn't get easier, does it? It's hard to make sure you "do it right". He'll find something either way to be angry about. I dread the day I hear "I wish I had never been adopted" though I know I'll hear it!